Meal Planning for One Dieter and Two Non-Dieters....

So, I'm guessing that quite a few of you are doing the "I'm on a diet and can't eat what everybody else in the house is eating" shuffle. As the wife and mother, I'm pretty much the one that does the cooking and meal planning...but let me explain....cuz I just HAVE TO explain this one.....

I both love and hate this role....And I am consistently inconsistent about it.... Because I don't want to be stereotypical....anything. I want to be good at it cuz I try to, not because I'm the wife or the mom and its part of the gender.

Now, despite the fact that I have always strived to be as UNconventional a woman as possible....In my lifetime I have, at one point in time or other, done all of the following: tune-ed up cars, overhauled two car engines, installed car brakes, welded, roofed a pole barn, tiled a bathroom, hung and mudded 75 sheets of drywall, remodeled two kitchens, wrenched on airplanes, hunted, shot an M-16, wore combat boots, had babies, flew a small plane, beat every guy in my aircraft mechanics classes, built furniture, and wrecked a motorcycle....there are still things I do that are very conventional...hence the meal planning and cooking.

Now, I've had a chip on my shoulder my entire life. I grew up with the "anything you can do, I can do better" attitude. "You" meaning a guy, and "I" being a girl. I never wanted to be "expected" to do something or be good at something because I was a girl. Likewise, I didn't want to be doubted on other things because I was a girl.

Somewhere along the way I sorta lost the attitude about "showing up" the guys, and realized that I've just learned to do things out of necessity, because, quite frankly, the drywall fairy doesn't come to my house. Neither does the car mechanic fairy. I got divorced when my kids were just getting ready to start school, and there were a lot of things that needed to be done, and no one but me to do them.

But GD-it!! Don't anyone expect me to do or not do something purely because of my plumbing!!

So back to dinner planning. For a long time, I still had this lingering chip on my shoulder about being "expected' to do certain things in the house, merely because I was the mommy or wife. And yet being the mom made me want to be "a great mom" and that was so conflicting for me!

Oi!!!

Well, my hubby and I have been together for 8 years now, and he is about an unconventional as I am. He has no preconceived notions about gender roles, or who's job it is to do dinner or laundry or any other household chore. I am a lucky woman! We have settled into a routine based on a couple of criteria: what are we good at, and what are we willing to take care of. And how it has worked out is this: I cook and plan, he does the grocery shopping. He also does laundry most of the time.

And this works well for us.

Except now that I'm dieting, I have to do things in a whole new way. I am struggling to plan dinners that they will still eat and enjoy, that are healthy and within calorie range for me. (Honestly, I really want to change their diets too, so we are all eating healthier, but I noticed that I have to be slow and careful about it, otherwise they are heading for the snacks very soon after dinner, or whining about wanting some fresh bread with dinner, or tons of mashed potatoes, or fried stuff). In any event, my goal is to make things that are healthy all around, and tasty, and which I can manage calories by controlling portion size. Making radical changes for them isn't going to work very well.

So my questions for all of you: How do you integrate your dieting with family meals? Do you put the whole family on a diet? Do you cook separately for yourself? Do you have new healthy recipes that your family likes as well?

106 & 107....Catching Up

Whew! Busy weekend....and I'm a bit behind on documenting my food intake. Actually found myself scribbling on a note pad these last couple days, cuz I didn't have much time at the computer.

Saturday: Finished making that pot roast, and hubby made the roast potatoes. By the time I sat down to eat, I was just tired and not all that hungry.

Breakfast:
one poached egg,  71 calories
one piece of buttered toast 115 calories
cup of coffee.  140 calories
2 bottles of water

No lunch....

Dinner:
3.8 ounces of pot roast, 315 calories
3/4 cup of cubed roasted potatoes sprayed with olive oil, 285 calories
glass of lemonade, 90 calories
3 more bottles of water

Another cup of coffee, 140 calories, with 2 Tbsp of whipped cream on top, 24 calories

Total: 1180 calories
83.5 ounces of water
16 ounces of lemonade
24 ounces of coffee

Sunday:
Breakfast:
one piece of toast,  115 calories
one clementine, 35 calories
coffee, 140 calories

2 bottles of water

Early dinner:
4 ounces of pot roast, 332 calories
1/2 cup of potatoes, 171 calories
about 2 ounces of carrots, 30 calories
2 bottles of water
16 ounces of lemonade, 90 calories

Another cup of coffee, 140 calories

Total:
1053 calories
4 bottles of water, 66.8 ounces
16 ounces lemonade
24 ounces of coffee

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And then it was Monday.

Been kinda down for the last couple of weeks. Off and on. When I'm busy, and too distracted, I'm alright, but the moment I slow down a bit, I start falling back into the crappy mood. Still having issues with my Mom. She's pretty much not calling me at all. And when I call her, she's quite bitchy.

Makes me want to avoid calling...which I do until my conscious gets the best of me. Then the dread starts creeping in....and I drag my feet for days, until I can't stand it any longer and I call. Today is the day I'm calling....and I am so not wanting to do this. And I feel really guilty about that.

Sigh....I just **know** the tone of voice she'll use to answer the phone...and I can predict the kinds of things whe's going to say, and what they all mean, and that "it's all my fault"...not in so many words most of the time, but eventually she'll get to that. And I just hope she's distracted by some other issue going on, and that I won't be the target.

Anybody have "mom issues"? Any suggestions?


And so far today:

coffee, 140 calories
bottle of water, 16.7 ounces